Changing the Behavior of Others
Dear Friends,
Christian advisors dedicate a lot of time to preparing to counsel clients. We study God’s word for Biblical principles that guide financial decisions, and search scripture for the right message to soothe a client’s fears in a turbulent economy or inspire them to step out in faith and give more generously. When we put in so much effort, it is frustrating to watch a client nod in agreement during a meeting and then go their own way once they leave the office.
Wouldn’t it make our lives easier if we could control what others do and say and how they act and react? It sure would reduce our daily frustration level, especially when dealing with clients who just don’t seem to follow our advice. It can feel like we are “talking to a brick wall!”
But who are we to presume that we can control others… that is God’s job!
2 Timothy 1:7 says, “For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.” That means that He has empowered us – indeed given us the responsibility - to share His word with love and patience and passion. We should not be afraid to bring our faith into our work, and share what we have learned with others to help them make the best decisions.
However, He also tells us that we are not responsible for whether or not our clients embrace His message and follow His wise guidance:
• “For it is God which worketh in you both to will and to do of his good pleasure.” (Phillippians 2:13)
• “So then neither is he that planteth any thing, neither he that watereth; but God that giveth the increase.” (Corinthians 3:7)
What a relief! We can plant the seeds of faith in others and encourage them to rely on His word, but ultimately it is God who will produce the fruit of our planting. Take heart in knowing that you are not responsible for others’ behavior!
How have you reached out in love and with grace to communicate God’s message to someone who seems to be unhearing? Share your story below and inspire others.
Blessings,
Ron
Ron, thanks for the reassurance. I have two clients that have refused my recommendations, and because of self pride refuse to implement this action even today when we can plainly see it would have been in their best interest. From your article, I can now turn it over to God. Thanks
Reply to this
Encouraging words.
Reply to this
Thanks, Ron. It's always good to hear your calm biblical perspective. I'm afraid that when clients don't listen to my (wise) counsel it may be in part due to my stubborn pride for failing to communicate in a humble manner. After all, I do know best, don't I.
Reply to this
Ron et al -- this story is tough to condense. I do real estate and real estate financing which in the Arizona market has been systemically infected with greed and tomorrow thinking for some time. Two years ago I helped create a substantial offer on a client's home at $1.6million (owner didn't take it). Two weeks ago he called and said "I need to sell". We now have a 3 years supply of 'like' homes county wide. I objectiv3ely informed him that the only 'leverage' he has is his own equity in the property and that he has the opportunity to "be the bank". He turned me down and will probably end up losing his shirt, shoes, etc. The advice that most of us get and give, historically, in this profession is so shallow and greed and 'future' driven. I feel so blessed to have been given the opportunity receive the Kingdom Advisors course so that I can at least change my own course and not have to repeat this story. I am reminded of a "prayer" of sorts from an unknown source --- "God grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change, the courage to change the one I can, and the wisdom to know it's me".
Reply to this